Inspiration

8 Daily Affirmations

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Sometimes it’s tough to “stay positive.”

Some days it’s easier to stay in bed rather than face reality.

Sometimes you just want to grab a tub of ice cream and stay on the couch and watch the Harry Potter series all day. 

Okay, it may not be Harry Potter for you. Maybe it’s Disney movies or Real Housewives of Atlanta. And maybe it’s not ice cream for you. Maybe it’s pizza or candy. My point is that it’s hard to stay positive every single day. 

Zig Ziglar once said, “People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily.”

How you start your day is extremely important. And what you tell yourself each day shapes the direction of your life. If you can think positively on a consistent basis, you will train your mind to find the good in every moment, even the moments when it seems impossible to do so.

I decided to hit up my lady and compile a list of the daily affirmations that help us get through our days.

With that being said,

Let’s get into it ! 


 

1)   I WILL - Get up and show up 

You’re going to have to pay your dues.  Anything worth having is going to take time to get which means there are going to be times when your emotions get the best of you.  Some days you’ll be more tired than others; some days you won’t feel as creative or as productive as other days.  But no matter how you feel, pick yourself up and show up for that day.  Whatever tasks you have to tackle, find the strength to make it happen.  Get it done.  Because one thing I’ve realized is that the days you don’t feel like doing something are the days when you probably need to do it the most, especially if it’s going to get you closer to your dreams, goals and aspirations.  Do your best not to count the days; focus on making each day count. 

2). I am IMPORTANT  

Do you know you’re here for a reason?  Every single person on this planet has a purpose, including you!  Yes, YOU.  You may not feel like it.   You may not know what it is.  But I need you to understand, and I mean REALLY understand, that you are important. You are here to accomplish something no one else in this world can accomplish.  The very fact that you are alive right now reading this means God is not finished with you yet.  You matter. I don’t care what anyone else has told you, or even what you’ve told yourself.  From this second moving forward, I need you to know you are special. SO special.  There are gifts, talents, visions, ideas, goals, and dreams inside of you ready to unfold.  Take the time to figure out what they are.  Please!  The world needs what you have to offer. 

3). I MUST – Breathe

Sometimes we forget to breathe.  You might say, “How do we forget to breathe when that’s literally what gives us oxygen?”  What I mean is that we breathe for survival but not always to analyze our next move.  Oftentimes, life can become a lot to handle.  Oftentimes, life has a grip on us and we’re just trying to hold on, just trying to keep our heads above water and catch our breath.  I’ve realized that in the midst of these chaotic moments, if we can find a way to breathe, we eventually calm down and can figure out a solution to our problems.  It’s kind of like quicksand.  The more you fight, the quicker you sink.  But if you calm down, it takes the sand longer to overtake you. Don’t let life overtake you.  Take a deep breath, analyze the root of your problem, shift your perspective, and find a solution. 

4). I am LOVED 

Another way to say this affirmation is, “I love myself.”  Self-love is crucial.  CRUCIAL. You cannot receive or give love to others until you first learn to love yourself.  How do you fall in love with yourself?  By working on the second affirmation- I am important.  If you repeatedly remind yourself that God has a plan for your life; that you are here for a reason; that there is greatness inside of you; that you are amazing and special; that YOU ARE IMPORTANT, your self-love will slowly begin to grow and grow.  You can tell when you REALLY love yourself because everything about you changes. Your swag is different.  Your confidence is on a whole other level. You talk different.  You walk different.  You don’t care what other people think about you.  You don’t need compliments from other people to feel good about yourself.  You don’t need likes and comments under your Instagram posts to feel validated.  You don’t settle for less than what you deserve. You eliminate the people and things in your life that are distracting you from your purpose.  Because when you fall in love with yourself, you realize you deserve to live the BEST life you could possibly live.  Mannnnnn, let me tell you.  Do not take this affirmation lightly!  Work on it until you start to see some changes.  Self-love is not going to happen overnight, but it is SO worth the process.    

5). I WILL - Fully commit to it 

I’ve always been a forward thinker.  I’m always thinking long term, which has its advantages and disadvantages.   One advantage is that I can see my vision very clearly.  The dream. The final product.   I see it as clear as day.  It’s so clear I can grab it!  However, the disadvantage to this is that I often overlook certain steps.

I don’t believe starting is the hard part.  I think having the right emotional state and the right people around you will give you the boost you need to start whatever it is you want to do.   The hard part is finishing.  It’s hard to finish anything.  Not because we can’t, but because when we embark on a journey, life has a way of happening.  The moment you make up your mind to do something, life is going to test you to see how bad you really want it.   And it’s not always easy to fight when you have no fight left in you.  It’s not always easy to get back up when you’ve had countless setbacks.

Doubt and fear are always near us.  But you owe it to yourself to see how far you can go in this life, not for anybody else but yourself. You need to finish whatever it is that you’re doing.   It’s not even about the destination.  It’s about who you are as a person day in and day out.  Your character will always overshadow whether you reach it to the top or not.  I’ve climbed many mountains and fell short on a bunch of them.   But no matter how many times I fall short, I’ll never stop climbing.  I owe it to myself to finish whatever it is that I start. I dare you to finish. I dare you! See it all the way through, and watch what it does to your character along the way. 

6). I am STRONG

“But Chanelle, I don’t feel strong.”  I get it. Trust me.  I get it!  Life has a way of making us feel weak.  Tragedy, disappointment, pain, suffering, trial, tribulation- we all experience difficult circumstances.  And sometimes the burden feels too heavy to carry.  Job loss, a death in the family, a bad health diagnosis, financial hardship, marital problems, a disobedient child- the list of challenges we experience is endless.  But guess how I know you’re strong?  Because you’re here right now reading this.  When life knocked you down, you got back up.  Being strong doesn’t mean you won’t ever fall.  Being strong doesn’t mean you won’t ever feel like quitting.  The true sign of strength is getting up when everything in you wants to throw in the towel. The next time life throws you a curveball and you don’t know how you’re going to make it through, remind yourself of all the things in your life you’ve overcome.  You’ve gotten stronger and stronger because of everything you’ve been through.  Your strength is at a higher level than it was a few years ago, a few months ago, a few weeks ago, even a few days ago.  Stop believing the lies that you’re too weak to get through whatever you’re facing, that you can’t handle anymore hardship.  You CAN and you WILL. 

7). I MUST - Do better when I know better

I remember when I finished university at 22, and I had just written my first book.  After I got the physical copy of the book and saw all the mistakes in it, I thought, “Wow, I had no idea what I was doing.”  See, I didn’t get a professional editor.  I was trying to save money so I went with someone I knew had been an English teacher for decades.  Even though she did a good job editing my book, she didn’t have that professional eye for book editing, and that showed in my end product. 

For my second book, I hired a professional editor, and the result was a night and day difference.  All I did was make one small adjustment, and it made a huge impact.  Am I a genius?  Heck no.   I just learned from my experience.  I knew better, so I made a better choice.  It’s okay to make mistakes.  It’s okay to get it wrong.  We’re human. That’s going to happen.  Very few times do we ever get it right the first time.   Don’t take it to heart.  Progress with the knowledge you have.  Make better decisions with the lessons you’ve learned.  Once you know better, do better. 

8). I am BEAUTIFUL 

This affirmation is a little cheesy, but it’s one of my favorite, probably because it’s the one I struggle with most.  I have a hard time looking myself in the mirror and saying, “I am beautiful.” Like most people, when I look in the mirror, I focus on my flaws.  I focus on everything about myself I wish was different.  But recently I got fed up with myself.  “Chanelle, wishing you could change certain things about yourself is such a waste of time.  You are beautiful just the way you are.”  And I’m going to tell you the same thing:  You are beautiful just the way you are! It’s hard for us to recognize our own beauty because we are constantly comparing how we look to how other people look.   Nowadays, the comparison trap is so easy to fall into with social media.  It’s SO important to remember that another person’s beauty is not the absence of your own beauty.  And, this may sound a little cliché, but true beauty is found within.  A woman can be the most beautiful person in the world on the outside, but if she has a nasty personality, she’s ugly in my book.  Imagine a young boy coming up to you and asking, “Why am I so ugly.”  What would you say?   I imagine you would tell him he’s not ugly, that everyone is beautiful in their own special way, and that true beauty is determined by how you treat others.  I think it’s time for all of us to start taking our own advice.

  

Maybe you have some affirmations of your own. I would love to hear about them and see what type of thoughts get you through each day. Feel free to leave a comment below and let me know! 

Co-Written with Chanelle Price

 

 

 

Find the Collateral Beauty

 

I woke up one Saturday, sat up in bed, looked at my night table, and glanced at my phone’s display clock.

“3:13 a.m.”

One hour and thirty-five minutes before my alarm was set to go off.

 3:13 a.m.?  What a strange time to wake up.

 I tried to force myself back to sleep for a little longer, but I made it to 3:20 a.m. and said, “Well, I might as well get up.”

 I turned off my alarm and started my normal morning routine.

 Around 7:00 a.m., I opened my window and looked out only to see it was snowing.  This was interesting because the weather forecast did not call for snow that day. But then again, Calgary weather is often unpredictable.   I really don’t mind the snow, when I’m inside that is.

 I said to myself, “Well, if it’s snowing, I don’t plan on going outside today.”  I decided to find a movie to watch.  From the title of this piece, I’m sure you’ve guessed what movie I chose.

 It’s funny how you never really know you need something until after you receive it.  Collateral Beauty-was a much-needed reminder for me on this particular day.

With that being said, here are a few of my favorite moments from the movie.

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1). “I’m time.  You wrote me because you need me.  I’m a gift, and you’re wasting it!”

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This was a conversation Howard (the main character in the movie) had with “Time” who he’s been writing.

 

Meaning:

 Time. 

 

It’s the one thing we can never get back.  It’s the one thing we should cherish every moment of.  Yet, it’s not always easy to appreciate time, especially when we are going through trials and tribulations.  It’s important to evaluate where and how we are spending our time and energy.

We can always find time to do something depending on what we prioritize.  The things and areas you prioritize are what your time and energy will flow toward.

Like Solomon wrote in the bible:

There’s a time for everything. (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8)

 

Someone once told me: “Time is currency, and it will put you in debt if you don’t appreciate the voices when they are there.”

Whatever season you are currently in, take a moment to figure out what your priorities are and where your energy is going. 

 

Time is only wasted if you don’t find the value in what, who or why you’re spending it. Just going through the motions of life is not the way our time is meant to be spent.

 

 

2).Brigitte: “People write letters to the universe all the time. Most don’t get a personal response, but you are.”

Howard: I don’t want this!

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Meaning: 

Be careful what you ask for.  

 

I don’t know about you, but I’ve prayed to the good Lord for some huge asks; things I know wouldn’t make sense to the average person; things that may seem impossible to some, but are more than possible to Him. 

Maybe you’ve asked for more patience, and then someone or something comes to stretch your patience. 

Maybe you’ve asked for a financial breakthrough, and then you get a notification that your credit card limit has been increased. 

Maybe you’ve asked for a huge amount of success in one area, and then you have to pick something in another area to sacrifice.

The point is, in order to attain what we ask for, we first have to go through certain tests. These tests develop our character and prepare us to keep what it is that we asked for.  

Continue to pray and ask for the things you desire; just make sure your motives and your heart are aligned as one.

 

 

3). Madeline: [to Howard] “You’ve been given a gift, this profound connection to everything. Just look for it, and I promise you it’s there, the collateral beauty.”

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Meaning:

 

We all have a God-given gift.  Every single one of us.  I’m not sure who’s going to read this today, but you have a gift. It’s hard to notice your gift when it’s not clear to see.  How do you find your gift?

 


Start with these three questions:

1). What’s the one thing I’m good at that comes easily to me?

2). What makes me different?

3). What’s the one common comment my friends/close circle say about me? (sometimes you don’t know what you’re good at until someone tells you)


 

I’ve heard so many people say, “I don’t have a gift.”

 

 I’ve never liked that statement.  Just because it can be hard to find something doesn’t mean it’s nonexistent. So, if you’ve said that before, don’t say it again.

 

Finding your gift will take time and patience.  Cultivating your gift will take effort and discipline.  I believe we are all called by the Creator to do something, and in order to operate in our calling, we first have to seek and find the gift inside of us.  When you find your gift, you will be called to leave a place of comfort.  In discomfort is where you truly figure out what you’ve been called to do.

 

The seed of my gift was planted when I was thirteen.  My gift became apparent when I was twenty.  I stepped into my calling at twenty-six.

 

Keep searching, keep listening, keep digging.

Your gift will make itself apparent in due time, if you haven’t found it already.

 

So... what is the meaning of collateral beauty?

 

 

I think it means no matter what goes on in our lives, if we search deep enough, there is always something to be grateful for, even when it hurts.

If you’ve seen the movie, What are some of the scenes or quotes that stuck out to you? Comment below and please let me know!

-Akeem

Blog Edited by: Chanelle Price

8 Tips to Start The New Year Right

Yeah.

So…

Okay,

I don’t really have an intro…let’s just get into it.

 

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1)  Don’t say, “New year, new me.”

 

Chances are if you’ve said this, in about a month or so you’ll probably go back to the old you.  Don’t be ashamed.  Just acknowledge this truth and find a way to fix it.

 

Fixing it:  FULLY commit to your goal for the new year.  It’s important to commit to it even on the days you don’t feel like it. It’s not always about what you feel like doing; it’s about committing to what you said you were going to do long after that good, motivating feeling is gone. Motivation doesn’t last but habits do.

 

2)  Do something you didn’t do last year.

 

Oftentimes we can catch ourselves saying, “I’ll do it tomorrow, or in a few days, or in a few weeks or months.”  It’s hard to get ahead if you keep putting it off until “tomorrow.”

 Fixing it:  I know it can be tough sometimes, but just be courageous TODAY and do something different.  Start today. Focus on the now, on this present moment.  Then tomorrow, take a deep breath and find that same courage.  And then find it again the day after that.  The time is now, and there is no time like the present to start something new.  In order to get somewhere, you have to leave somewhere. Get out into the unknown and leave the comfort!

 

3)  This is my year!

 

Last year wasn’t your year.  Or the year before that.  But this year!!!  Oh baby, this is the year.  I feel it! 

 Fixing it:  All it takes is a few small things to work in your favor to build that momentum. Once that momentum builds, you’ll start to get some wins in areas you probably didn’t think you would get just yet. That’s all success is- a lot of small wins stacked on top of each other.  You never know when things will come together, but no matter what, you must believe that your time and year is this present one because it is!  If not this year, then best believe 2020 is the one! Expect that breakthrough, believe in that breakthrough, claim that breakthrough.  You don’t have to tell the world, but you have to tell yourself.

 

4)  Know the difference between a need and a want.

 

It’s not always about what you want.  Everybody wants something, but do you need it? How do you know the difference?

Fixing it:  A need is something you cannot live without.  A want is something that will bring you instant joy & temporary happiness (that’s kinda deep and I wasn’t even trying to be).   Needs require a budget.  Wants have no expiration date. A need involves prioritizing your focus; a want involves how big your eyes get when you look at it. Put it this way, if you take care and focus on what you need right now, you’ll have what you want in due time, and probably in abundance because you taught yourself discipline.

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5)  Re-evaluate your circle.

 

Every year there is a meme that says, “If I don’t reply to you, I left you in last year,” (some of the memes are actually kind of funny). It’s not always about cutting people off; it’s about making sure those you surround yourself with aren’t just taking from your energy but are also adding to it.  Sometimes you have to make sure everyone in your circle is on the same page as you. 

Fixing it: Priorities change, you change, your goals and motivation change.  That’s called growth.  As an individual grows, so do certain things in his or her life.  We are a new person every single year which means we should raise our standards.  Oftentimes, when this happens, people naturally drift out of our live, and that’s okay.  Never apologize for growing into your full potential and having to leave some people behind, no matter who they are.   

 

Everybody wants to ride the wagon up the hill until the wheel falls off.  That’s when you’ll find out who’s there to help you push and who’s just there for the transportation.

 

6)  Get your nutrition right.

 

For real.  Don’t play with your body.  Amazon and ebay don’t sell bodies.  Trust me, I’ve checked.  You only get one body.  Just one! So take care of it.  If you take care of your body at the beginning stages of your life, your future body will thank you.

Fixing it:  Drink water, eat your veggies (broccoli won’t kill you).  Get that exercise in, even if you’re not really into exercising.  Just go for a walk.  You’d be surprised how good for your joints just plain walking is.  Don’t wait until it’s too late to realize you should have taken better care of yourself.  Exercise and nutrition are in your control.  Take control of them.  

 

7)  Don’t let your past keep you trapped.

 

“This is how my family has always done it. And this is probably how I’m going to do it.”  There’s nothing wrong with that.  But what if that’s not what’s best for you?

Fixing it:  Going against the grain is always tough. It’s not always comfortable or ideal, especially to those who know you well. (Quick story time!)

 

A few years ago, I was talking to an individual that I will call Achilles, and the conversation went like this: 

Achilles:  Man, I don’t even like what I’m majoring in at school.

Akeem:  You wait until 3 months before you graduate to have these thoughts?  Why’d you choose that major?

 Achilles:  I know right. Because my parents are engineers and so is my brother.  It only makes sense.

Akeem:  I get it. It’s in the family. S what’re you going to do?

 Achilles:  I’m going to finish, and then I’ll probably find a job in that field for a year, and then I’ll quit.  What would you do?

 Akeem:  Well, you should probably take some time and figure out what you really want to do.  Whatever you do, just don’t half-ass it.  People never forget a hard worker. 

 Achilles:  Yeah, that’s a good point. I’ll take some time to figure it out these next few months. You tryna go to Dairy Queen this week, though?

 

I heard Jim Carey once say, “You can fail at doing something you don’t like to do, so why not take a chance on doing something that you love to do?” 

 

8) Unwavering faith. 

 

Faith is believing in something you cannot see.  Faith is finding a reason to keep going even when you can’t see the path.  Faith is practicing your craft every single day when you don’t know when that opportunity might come.  Faith is wiping your tears and smiling at the same time.  Faith is understanding things will get worse before they get better.  Faith is encouraging others when you need encouragement yourself.  Faith is being positive when you don’t see anything to be positive about.  Faith is believing your breakthrough is just around the corner when the corners aren’t very wide.  Faith is believing God is working in your favor when it feels like He’s forgotten about you.


If you are reading this today, I am praying for you.  I hope this is the year you’ve been praying for.  I hope this is the year the seeds you planted will start to bear fruit.  I hope this is the year generational cycles are broken and a new generational cycle begins.  

 

I hope today is the day that it starts.

 

Leave a comment below and let me know which tip spoke to you.

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-Akeem

Blog edited by: Chanelle Price 

 

9 Things That Happen When You Chase Your Purpose

Most people will not chase their true best life simply because of how hard and unknown that territory is. When I was younger I did not understand it but now that I am older and I see and feel the cost of not sticking with your dream a lot more.

 

I started chasing my dream of helping help people with injuries and staying healthy in 2016, and not many good things have happened since then. Back in 2016, I had two jobs, 20k in the bank and my wife and I felt like we could do anything that we wanted. Now the picture is very different because dreams come at a steep cost and not many people like that price tag.  Here are something’s that will happen to you when you start going after what you want in life. 

 

1. Resistance Comes At You From Every Direction

Resistance consists of anything that distracts you from accomplishing what you want to. Sugar is resistance because it slows you down physically and mentally, a lack of hydration is resistance because you don’t have the energy levels to give to your dream. The opposition can come from people who discourage you because they make you doubt yourself. 

The list of things that can slow you down could go on forever. The important thing in dealing with resistance is changing your attitude about it. When I was training as a sprinter, my favorite workouts were resistance workouts. Whether it was running up the hill, pulling a sled, or being in the weight room, resistance would slow me down, but in the end, it helped me to run faster. 

When you get resistance in your life, you have to learn to smile, or it will wear you down. Resistance has one goal, and that is to get you to go the other way. The more you smile, the more you frustrate it.

 

2. You Learn The Truth About Obstacles

The truth about obstacles that they never tell you in school is that you need them. They are not here to hurt you; they are here to destroy the weak ones. The reason that being a doctor is worth it is because it is hard. In high school, it weeds out those with bad grades. In College, it asks you to take organic chemistry. Then it invites you to apply to med school and take the MCAT. If you are one of the few, who can get past that you get the honor of studying for at least four more years to call yourself a Dr. 

The truth about every obstacle is that a portion of people will NOT make it to the next level. Celebrate that! The fewer people that can hold on the more valuable the thing you are chasing becomes. If there is no difficulty, there is no value. The truth about obstacles is that with each one the importance of what you are pursuing increases. 

 

3. You Are Handed Every Reason to Quit

You will feel like some days the world is handing you a briefcase filled with $20,000 to quit. In the short run taking the money feels excellent. The second you quit life goes back to normal. You are an average member of society doing all the things you are supposed to do. Everyone gets off your back. You don't have to feel shame and, and everyone around you can exhale because your life looks the way it should. 

The thing that sucks about taking the money and quitting is that no one would be mad at you for it. If you take it, people would tell you they understand because they would quit too. 

When  Khohealth was starting to heat up, I was feeling great about what we were doing. We were in a better spot financially so I decided to fly to our developer from Denmark so we could work in the same place for once. When he got to the airport, he ended up getting arrested and detained for three weeks. I could not have one conversation with him, and we were at a critical point in what we were doing. Three weeks when you are in the heat of your dream. Everything in me was ready to quit, and you know what, everyone would have understood. 

Take the reasons to quit and throw them in the garbage if the long-term prospects don't look right. Here is what I mean, if someone gives you $20k to resign today, but in 5 years what you are working on will be worth $20 million is it still impressive? Focus on the long term and don't let the short-term stuff get you caught up. 

4. People Like Winners and You Won't Be Considered One For a While

When I made the 2012 Olympics, I learned my favorite lesson of life to date. When everyone found out I made the team, I was a winner, and they wanted to hold my hand. When I found out I was not going to get the opportunity to run, my life went back to how it was before. I don't blame anyone for leaving me hanging though because the world loves winners. Being around winners feels excellent!

When you start chasing your purpose, you will be a loser, and there is almost nothing you can do about it. Inside you will feel good, and you will feel like a winner on most days, but outwardly there will be no proof of success. Success starts with the struggle, but people forget that when they see the progress. The grind is not fun to study, but the rewards of success are. If you are brave enough to chase your dream, be prepared to be treated like a loser. Never believe that lie though! 

5. You Learn to Defend Your Dream

If I tried to take your phone right now, you would be mad, and you would fight for it back. If I stomped on your dream and wanted to kill it, you would probably start doubting yourself. Defending your ideas feels much harder because it is not a tangible thing. It is based on faith, and anything you believe in becomes easy for others to take shots at. 

The best thing you can do is learning to defend your dream. Don't let anyone in your mind without taking their dirty shoes off and getting their feet washed by Jesus himself. Anything less and they are getting smacked for even trying to walk in your head. Your dream is worth protecting with your life because it is yours and it was given to you for a reason. 

6. You Learn How Far You Can Push Yourself

When you think you have done your last rep in a workout, sometimes you are only halfway. To be a great athlete it requires learning that you have so much more left in the tank than you think. 

To achieve the success that made you click this article it requires you to take more punches, survive on less money, take more risk, get laughed at more times than you ever thought you could. You can handle more, and I encourage you to block out the negativity and focus in on your work. Everyone else is going to talk regardless stay focused on the long-term vision.

7. Shame Hits You and You Learn to Deal With

Shame is a horrible thing because it makes you want to stay inside and never leave your house. It is probably a precursor to depression because the feeling sucks. In the midst of chasing my dream, I recently got fired from my job. I did not care about the job, but your ego gets slapped, and shame tries to find its way in your heart. 

I had one day I felt it so heavy I just lied on the ground face down like what is wrong with me? I wish I could be normal and have standard $70k a year aspirations and do as I'm told and settled in on that and take my nice vacation once a year. I swear I wish I could want that but God put something different in me, and some days I hate that he did. 

As I was lying there feeling bad for myself, my daughter climbed on my back and started riding me like a pony which made me start laughing. I immediately was like “Ian get up and stop feeling bad for yourself and get back to work. There is no time for that right now. “

Shame is resistance it wants you to spend time distracted. If shame gets you, it knows that you will never achieve what you want. Forget what people think of you, get on your feet, hold yourself up with good posture and get back to work. Don't stop believing because of the last kick to the stomach. 

8.  Life Becomes a Canvas

When you start chasing your dream, you see glimpses of how life can be. We are given a paintbrush, and we can create life how we want it to look. The problem is resistance says no you can't. Resistance tells you to get your ass to the first job that you can get paid for. Smile and take those paychecks and do everything you can to please your boss. Miss, your kids, lives because you have to work and if you don't do it you are a shame. 

You slowly take your paintbrush, and you wash it off and put it back in the package. You became scared and worn down, and you can only see failure and the consequences of it. You get stuck in it so long that you can no longer remember your paintbrush or that you know how to paint. 

You have the power to create your life. It can work the way you want it to. If you like working in the morning, it can be that way. If you love 3 day weekends that can be every week, but it requires knowing what you want and then making the sacrifice to make it happen. That is it! 

9. Faith is Something Most People Don't Have A Lot Of

People will talk like they have the most faith in the world, but they don't. They have faith as long as they have security. Take security away from a person, and you will see how much faith they have. It is easy to have faith when your bank account looks the way you want it to, and everything is moving in the right direction. Can you have confidence when it feels like everything has been taken away from you? 

It is essential to understand this when you are chasing what you want. Most people want you is to stay within the lines of life that they stayed within. You step outside of those lines and you will get a scolding for it. The reason is due to fear and only fear. Others become scared that your life will not work out. Maybe you will lose your friends, your job, your family, and all your money if you keep working outside of the lines. 

Fear and faith are not friends at all. If you are acting out of fear, you will rarely get what you want. You will get whatever life throws you. When you are operating out of faith, you believe in the vision and dream. 

 

Never Forget - The Dream was given to you, so no one else needs to understand it or get it. Just keep doing you.

 

Ian warner is the founder of KhoHealth, as well as an Olympian and author.

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Motivation Monday

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Last Monday, I was at the gym getting my swole on, right.  And in between sets I was taking my rest and trying to remember what I had in the fridge to eat once I got home. And my trainer (Drew Robertson) came over and we were talking (probably about food) and then another person come over and said, “I just can’t get going on Mondays, do you guys have that problem?”

 

My immediate response:

 

“Nah.”

 

But to be fair, I’ve never really thought about it until he mentioned it.  To me, the hardest day is Friday because your mind can be set on weekend mode and you can clock out Friday morning and end up not doing a single thing productive that day and waste it.  (I had a teammate in college who was the master of this.  Dude would clock out Thursday night!)

 

It can be dangerous because the weekend can slow up your momentum.

 

Like the man above, maybe Mondays are tough for you as well. So here are a few Monday Motivation tips that will hopefully improve your Mondays. (By the way, how many is a few? Because the other day I asked my little sister for a few of her skittles and she gave me like 2.  Did I get disrespected?)

 

But any who, let’s get into it.

 

 

 

Monday Motivation Tip #1

 The moment you wake up, try saying three things you are grateful for.  Then, after you say them out loud, write them down on a piece of paper and let it sit in a space where you can see it.  Then, before you head out the door, grab the paper and say them out loud one more time.  Doesn’t matter what day it is, no day will ever be the same.  So, appreciate the day that you have and make the most of it.  Don’t take it for granted. 

Monday Motivation Tip #2

Wake up on time and start with a good breakfast.  Don’t rush the morning.  Statistics show that in 2011 alone, 31 million people skipped breakfast.  I’m not the biggest breakfast person myself, but it does make a difference and you can feel it.  When you fuel your body with quality food, your mood will change throughout the day. People out here be ogre-ish when they don’t eat.   Don’t be an ogre anymore. 

Monday Motivation Tip #3

Start your day with something positive.  Listen to a podcast, listen to a talk, watch an inspirational video, listen to your favourite song, read a book, do something that pours into yourself.  Once you walk through the door, you can’t control what happens.  Along the way, something might disrupt your day, so you need to fill yourself up with so much positivity that if you do get disrupted, you’re not even sweating because you have all this positivity in you.

Monday Motivation Tip #4

Don’t check your phone first thing when you wake up.  Don’t even do it. Because once you do, you will be hooked to it.  And I’m telling you, the worst thing you can do for yourself when you wake up, is invest and look at somebody else’s life when you haven’t invested in your own life. Put the phone away and just take 20 minutes for yourself.

Monday Motivation Tip #5  

Why are you getting up?  No for real, ask yourself that.  The other day I woke up, glanced over at my watch on the dresser, and the time read 5:15am. The next time I glanced over, it said 5:50am. You might be asking, “What were you doing for 35 minutes?”

(Insert deep answer below)

 

I was looking at my ceiling….

 

I was like, “Man, I’m not feeling today.  This is stupid bruh. I should probably just throw in the towel and stop investing in myself like this. What’s the point?” 

And I remember those things going through my head, and then in walks my little sister, half asleep stumbling into the walls.  She came over and gave me a hug and said, “Good morning Akeem”.

 Immediately I told myself to give it a rest.  Suck it up and let’s conquer the day.

 Life has a way of reminding us the many reasons why we need to push through. 

 

Monday Motivation Tip #6

Whether you like Monday or you don’t, it’s still going to come.  It’s always going to be a day that is part of the week.  While you might wake up on Monday upset and mad at the world, Monday is all smiles and sunny and ready to go.  If your competitive like I know you are, you won’t let Monday shine brighter than you. Even if you don’t like Monday, you better compete with it and dominate the day so later that night you can say, “Monday, how does coming in second feel? ;)”

Monday Motivation Tip #7

Monday is the tone-setter.  If you start the week off in a bad mood, chances are Tuesday is going to be a write off as well, and unless your writing off your taxes, skipping a day doesn’t do your life any justice.  Momentum and energy is a powerful thing.  Set the tone early in the week.  Your days are more meaningful when you are intentional with each day.

Monday Motivation Tip # 8

Spread encouragement.  Start a group chat with some of your friends every Monday, and make it a habit of putting positivity in there.  Matter of fact, make that a requirement in order to enter the group chat. Your environment will change you long before you can change your environment. If your environment is already booming with positivity, it’s hard to be negative. Even the Grinch celebrated Christmas when he changed his environment (even if it was to ruin it initially).


Motivation doesn’t last so you need to find different ways to stay motivated. 

You may have heard about that cliché saying:

Don’t count the days, make the days count.”

Cliché statements are often the honest truths.  

 


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If you have a Monday Motivation routine, leave a comment below and let me know. 

 

 

 

-      Akeem Haynes

10 Things They Don’t Tell You Before You Graduate (University Addition)

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The other day, I went for a walk to my usual spot.  I call it my “thinking spot.”  When I got there, I sat on my bench and after five minutes started laughing. 

 

Now, before you call me crazy, hear me out!

 

 I was laughing because I was listening to a podcast and heard the individual say, “The moment you graduate, everything will fall into place because you will have a degree.”

 

HA! I’m sure you’re laughing too.  Or you’re just waiting for me to get to the point.

 

This point is this- that statement couldn’t be further from the truth!  A degree, in my opinion, is like a passport.  It has the ability to open different doors.  However, it doesn’t mean those doors will ever be opened.  And if they do open, you better seize the opportunity quickly! 

 

I graduated from The University of Alabama a semester early, and one thing that stuck out to me from my whole university experience was when my English professor said:

 

“You will learn more about life experiencing stuff than you will reading this English textbook.”

 

After my trip down memory road at my “thinking spot,” I made my way home.  When I got inside, I picked up my phone and hit my guy Ian.  I asked if he wanted to jump on this post with me.

 

I’ve always said I wish someone would have told me about university before I got there.  I would have done my best to take advantage of certain things a little bit better.

 

For those of you reading this who are about to enter that chapter in your life, I hope you write these down and keep them in mind...

 

Let’s begin.

 

 

 

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1). Saving Is More Important Than Earning

 

When you graduate college, the only thing on your mind is making that paper for the first time. What they don't tell you is that it doesn’t matter how much you earn, it matters how much you save.  Getting into the habit of saving is not about being rich. Saving money keeps you sane.  It grows your self-control.  And it allows you to have money ready for when opportunity strikes.

 

If you get a $20k raise, and you spend $20k more, you end up with more stuff but your bank account looks the same way. The key is when you start increasing your income, try and live like you are still a broke college student for as long as you can.  Doing this will allow you to build up a financial cushion.  And you can make much better choices with $20k sitting in the bank compared to having nothing.

 

 

2). Get Around Like-Minded People

 

It’s imperative that you get around like-minded people as early as you can. University is the one place where the majority of people get into debt, but very few people get out of that debt.  So, you might as well get around some people who actually want to pay off that debt. Why? Well because those people probably have some type of plan.  Those are the people that are going to make sure you think outside of the box, and they will start by holding you accountable.

 

It is hard to make friends once you graduate from college.  Your whole life can easily be spent with coworkers or your family.  You have to make an effort to build with like-minded people to have in-depth discussions with. These are the people who will challenge you to be better than what you currently are.  It is not easy to find people who challenge you because when most people see you messing up, they are happy about it.   They now have a chance to step their game up. When you are trying to advance your way of thinking, you need to be around people who think like you do in order to stay sane.

 

3). You Have To Do More Than What You Are Paid T0 Do

 

Do more than you are paid to do even when it hurts and it seems that life is unfair. Doing more than what you are paid to do is how you ensure you are always needed and practically irreplaceable.  There are not many people who will follow this.  Look for more opportunities to help and to give. If you want to receive more, it is imperative that you give more.  If you only look to do what your job title says and never anything more, you make yourself dispensable.

 

Do the extra.  When you do what others won’t do, you will get more than they get.  I’m not even talking about finances.  I’m talking about creating a lifestyle and building a character that gets noticed as soon as you walk in the room.  I think the one thing people forget is that you make money.  Don’t let the money make you.  When you make yourself non-disposable, you’ll always make money.

 

4). Knowing What You Want Matters More Than Working Hard

 

It does not matter how hard you work if you have no direction.  Before you do anything else, you have to decide exactly what you want from life.  What do you want, when do you want it, why do you want it and what is your plan to go and get it?

 

Doing this is like setting the destination in your GPS.  If you don't set a destination, how can you know the path to where you are going? School teaches us to drift.  It makes many people feel like it is okay to not have a plan.  It’s why people going to college “undecided” is perfectly fine. The message is, “Wake up and have no idea what you want to do!”  That’s fine as long as you can pay that $28,000 college bill :).  

 

“What if I don’t know what I want?”

 

Let me slide on this one Ian.

 

You know what you want.  Whether you say it out loud and believe it is a different thing. Everyone has an idea of what they would like their life to look like. For example, the moment you say,  “I want...” you have an idea.  You just aren’t being intentional with the description of that idea.  And If you don’t know the description and how you can make that idea manifest, you’ll get lost in-between your other ideas.  And you’ll just continue to answer.  “I don’t know”.  You do know.  Just take a little more time and be descriptive.  Write down your own personal goal dots, and then connect them.  (See what I did there?  You know, connect the dots?  Like the game?)

 

5). That Childhood Imagination Is The Worst Thing You Can Let Go Of

 

The computer I am typing on, my iPhone, your favorite app are all things that came from the imagination.  Someone had an idea that they took action on to create all of these products.  When you’re in school, you are taught there is an absolute path you must follow.  The people who are remembered in history never follow the same way. They walk to the beat of their own drum, letting their imagination and “out of the box” thinking lead them.

 

I feel you bro, but it’s Android phone and Mac computer over here! But listen, if you don’t realize the endless possibilities of what the mind can create, you aren’t dreaming enough. People have a way of downsizing your dreams, so don’t even sweat that.  They don’t see what you see, or believe what you believe.  People would rather tell you what you can’t do and belittle your ideas and aspirations rather than give you hope so when you fall the first few times, you’ll have the courage to get back up. So, if you’re reading this today, and you have some big aspirations, I believe in your idea. Whether you succeed or fail is up to God.  That’s his realm.  But if you don’t ever try and give your dream oxygen, it’ll never live.

 

6). You Have T0 Believe In You First

 

If you do not believe in you, no one else is going to.  Your new boss is not going to give you pep talks about how he thinks you can do it. Disney Land is Disney Land, and real life is real life.  Don't get them confused.  When you believe in yourself and put in massive action, you’ll produce results over time and others will slowly begin to understand.

 

You have to believe you are already at the table before you even sit down.  Know that you belong anywhere you so choose to be.  If you don’t think your worthy of something, you’ll never fully grasp it. 

 

7). You Have To Start From Where You Are

 

Imagination is great, BUT you still need to be real with yourself about where you are today.  Social media has made some people delusional because it’s cooler to act successful than it is to actually obtain success.  Look yourself in the mirror and understand that where you are today is the result of the choices you made yesterday.  If you don't like where you are then make some different decisions.  You can build an accurate roadmap to greatness if you don't have your current destination correct.

 

Everything that you do, or don’t do, has a positive or negative reaction. Look, I know your tired some days, but isn’t it worth being tired from giving everything you have towards progressing further?

 

8). Experience, Experience, Experience

 

This will probably be something you hear a lot about. 

“You’re not experienced enough” 

or 

“You lack experience”

 

It’s funny, you can go to school for a billion years and when you graduate, certain companies won’t even give you that “experience” you need in order to succeed in that particular field.  How do you gain experience?  Well, be aware and be open to what’s around you wherever you are.  Create your own experiences.  Things have evolved so much.  Nowadays, you can search and find some type of contact information to send an email to the companies and people you want to be involved with. The worst thing they can say is, “No.”  But if they are willing to have you there, you’ll be able to gain that experience.  Don’t wait until you graduate to find out you’re not qualified. Leave no stone unturned.  And if they won’t give you the experience, try to create it.

 

 

9). It’s better To Be Productive Than To Be Busy

 

According to everyone you meet, especially after you graduate, they are “busy.” “Extremely busy” at that.  But you know what I’ve realized?  Just because you’re busy doesn’t mean you’re being productive.  Sometimes people confuse busyness with clutter. It’s not the hours you put in, but rather what you put in those hours.  You could be busy on paper for 15 hours straight.  But of those 15 hours, if only 4 of them were productive, you just wasted 11 hours.  People who are productive and efficient with the time they have will always overshadow those who grind all day.  Be careful not to confuse the two.  Being busy doesn’t always mean progress.

 

10).Work Harder On Yourself Than At Your Job

 

School is always teaching you to work hard.  The message engrained in your brain is that if you work hard at your job, great things will happen.  It reminds of the story of the two men who went to cut down trees.  One worked his butt off sawing down the trees for six hours.  The other man spent one hour sharpening his saw, and then spent only two hours cutting down the trees.

 

When you decide to work on yourself, you are like the person who sharpened his saw first.  By learning about yourself, reading, growing, forming positive habits, and a building a solid character, you give yourself better ingredients to succeed with.

 

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I hope this has helped in one way or another.

 

Use your time wisely.   You will not be able to do everything, but you can spend time doing and investing in the right things.  And start by investing in yourself.

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Life experiences are what make our journey so much more meaningful.

 

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- Akeem

Four Things To Remember When Life Gets Tough

Life is unpredictable. 

 

You just never know how quickly the tide will turn and change the trajectory of where you were going.  

 

But at the same time, the things we go through are meant to create a stronger and much improved version of ourselves.

 

To never struggle is to never grow.

 


 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

— -Proverbs: 3:5-6

 

 

1)      Find Your Path

 

Be honest with yourself.  And that can mean many things and go many different ways.  But you have to be honest with where you are right now. Speaking from experience, this can be extremely eye-opening and discouraging. 

 

When I was 16, I wrote down about 10 things I wanted to accomplish by a certain age.  I would look at that paper almost every day, and to this day, out of those 10 things, I’ve achieved 2 of them.  A mere 20 percent!  Nevertheless, I’ve accomplished some things that I didn’t expect to.

 

Sometimes the initial path of our journey gets redirected to where we need to go, not where we want to go. 

 

What does that mean?

 

Well, it means that just because you aren’t where you want to be doesn’t mean you won’t end up back on the initial path you started. 

 

 

Ok, let me break it down mathematically really quickly.

1+3 = 4

2+2 = 4

0+4= 4

6-2 = 4

 

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There is more than one way to find the answer.  There are many different ways to get to where you want to go.  But if you don’t develop the skills you need along the way and learn how to get back on that path, you will continue to lose sight of the way.
— Akeem Haynes

 

 

 There is more than one way to find the answer.  There are many different ways to get to where you want to go.  But if you don’t develop the skills you need along the way and learn how to get back on that path, you will continue to lose sight of the way.

 

 

 

 

Embrace where you are.  Stay the course.  Try not to get discouraged.  Develop what you need to on the path you are on.

You will find your way back.  Just don’t stop walking.

 

 

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 2) Watch Your Self-Talk

 

No, for real.  You’ve got to watch the things you say to yourself on an everyday basis. Especially when it gets tough. There is no way you will make it out of the hole if you keep digging it deeper.  Adjust what you say.  Don’t play with your words.

 

I never agreed with the saying, “Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt you.”  That’s a lie. Words are powerful.  Because eventually, if you tell yourself something enough times, you will start to believe it, and your words will slowly begin to manifest physically.

 

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If you are going through a rough patch, tell yourself you’re going through a transition stage and you’re almost finished.  If you’re going through some financial stress, just say you’re in between funds right now and you’re about to be financially stable.  If you had a bad day, remind yourself that there really are no bad days, just character-building days.
— Akeem Haynes

 

 

If you are going through a rough patch, tell yourself you’re going through a transition stage and you’re almost finished.  If you’re going through some financial stress, just say you’re in between funds right now and you’re about to be financially stable.  If you had a bad day, remind yourself that there really are no bad days, just character-building days.

 

Change the things you say to yourself.   Speak life into yourself.  If you want to see change, you have to not only work for it physically, but you’ve got to put it out there in the universe.  

 

 

 

Words by themselves don’t hurt us.  Only when we give them meaning do they gain their power.

 

Watch what you say.

 

 

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3) Trust Your Preparation To Pass The Test

 

When I was in school, up until about my last year in university, I would do well on the assignments and homework and projects.  But as soon as a test, mid-term or final exam came around, I wouldn’t do too well.  Not all the time, but for the most part, I just didn’t do well.

 

And the more I think about it now, straight up, I just didn’t prepare as well as I could have.  I’m not saying I didn’t study or take it seriously.  I just didn’t prepare as well as the other students who got the high scores. And because I didn’t feel confident in my preparation, my brain would be all over the place, and I’d second guess myself every time.

 

But I learned from that experience, and I now apply that lesson in my everyday life.

 

You can’t control everything, but no one can take away how hard you practice and the effort you put toward your craft and developing your all-around skillsets.

 

And when you feel like you’re ready for a breakthrough, that is when you will be tested to see if you are going to revert back to your old ways.

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When you haven’t prepared and prepped yourself for what’s to come, you may pass the assignments, but you’ll never pass the most important tests.
— Akeem Haynes

 

 

When you haven’t prepared and prepped yourself for what’s to come, you may pass the assignments, but you’ll never pass the most important tests.

  

 

 

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4). Take The Good With The Bad

 

This is such a powerful statement.  You are still here.  You are still here.  YOU are still here. You are here for a reason, a purpose, a specific reason that God has intended for you.

 

Despite everything that you’ve been through, and might be going through at this moment, you are still here. That’s not by accident.  That’s not by chance.  Sometimes when we go through things, it’s not for us.  It’s to show someone watching that they can get through their own situation too.  Sometimes God doesn’t need us to preach a miracle.  He needs us to live in the present as an example of one.

 

Nothing goes unnoticed.   Sometimes we need to fall down in the fight of life so we can learn how to get back up on our feet.  That breakthrough you might be looking for is probably taking its sweet time, and I mean really taking its sweet time.  But that’s the reason you’ll appreciate it so much more when it does come.

 

Without the darkness, we wouldn’t appreciate the light as much.

 

If it didn’t rain, we wouldn’t be able to see the rainbow.

 

If we didn’t go through the bad, we wouldn’t truly appreciate the good. 

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Life has a way of findings its balance. Things can change at one glance. Your moment will come when you least expect it. But what you do while you wait will make the biggest difference, always.
— Akeem Haynes

 

 

Life has a way of findings its balance.  Things can change at one glance.  Your moment will come when you least expect it.  But what you do while you wait will make the biggest difference, always. 

 

 

 

Grow through it, you made it this far, don't stop progressing now. You've came to far. You've got this.

Stick with it. Push through.

- Akeem

The Lessons I've Learned From The Airport

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Airport Layover

 I dislike travelling as a whole. I enjoy new cities, and scenery, and culture and different atmospheres I enjoy that part, but I dislike actually flying, long road trips. All of that, its super quiet for me on that aspect.

Like if your trying to go on a road trip and you need someone to go, I’m probably not the best person to ask. However, I’ll come along, providing we are loaded up with snacks.

 

Matter of a fact I’m writing this at the airport as I’m waiting for my connecting flight.

 

Kind of ironic honestly, simply because of how much it relates to being patient.

 

 

 


Delayed

 

I’ve always somehow been portrayed as this patient person. And Truth is, by nature, I’m extremely impatient. I don’t like to wait. I’m a very punctual person, and the value of time is something I try not to waste or take for granted.  

 

But what happens when you have no choice but to be patient? 

 

I remember when I was coming back home during Christmas time when I was at school in Kansas, and on this particular trip my flight looked like this 

 

 Wichita to Houston, Houston to Edmonton, Edmonton to Calgary.

 

On paper I guess it doesn’t look that bad? however, I had a 4-hour layover in Edmonton, and the flight from Edmonton to Calgary was maybe 30 minutes once you’re up in the air.

 

I was beyond annoyed, tired, and all the above.

 

But It taught me a valuable lesson that day,

You don’t know how patient you can be, until being patient is all you can be.
— Akeem Haynes

 


 

 

Taxing

 

In 2016, on the way to the Olympic Games in Rio De Janeiro, if memory serves me justice, I believe we had a night flight. After boarding the flight and putting my bags up. I sat in my seat and waited for the magical words. “Ladies and gentlemen, we are ready for take-off”

 

 I was already tired from the week of training and travelling back from London earlier in the week. So that made everything that much sweeter, I had everything planned out in my head. I was going to kick back and watch a couple movies, and let the movies tire out my eyes and I’ll be in deep REM sleep and when I wake up I’ll get there.

 

*Doses off*

 

10 minutes later….

 

I opened my eyes and realized I was still on the dang runaway!

 

My trip was ruined, I ended up staying up half the 9-hour flight. 

 

But in the midst of the stress, there was a lesson to be learned from it

 

Don’t get too ahead of yourself. 

 

 

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Sky High

 

This is the one part you have no control over whatsoever. Literally, all you can do is sit and occupy your time and let the pilots and steward & Stewardess do their job.

 

There’s always that stage in life, where it seems like you’re just going through the motions. You’re working towards something, but it can often feel redundant. Sometimes it can feel like you’re not making any progress. And as humans, we strive off progress, that’s what keeps us going.

 

When you’re in the air flying, and you have a long flight, it doesn’t feel like you’re moving or really covering any ground, until you get to your destination and you realize is was the complete opposite.

 

Here’s the lesson here:

 

It’s not how many hours you put into what you do, but rather what you put in those hours.

 

 


Landing

 

“Ladies and Gentlemen, Prepare for landing”

 

Those are sacred words when it comes to flying. It means the trip is almost done! 

 

I wish there was that announcement from the good Lord above that told us that our time was about to come. I imagine mine would go something like this.

 

“Aye akeem, just stay strong for two more weeks and then it’s your time my guy! the next week and a half I got to make tough, but don’t worry, you’re good, stay strong. Two weeks!”

 

See, that way I’m prepared. I know in exactly, two weeks I’ll be good!

 

But when you’re sitting in the sky on the plane, you don’t control the landing, you just got to have faith that you’ll get to the ground safely.

 

But you know what, 

sometimes the unknown is our strongest weapon. You don’t know what you don’t know, so you’ll just have to trust what you do and know that you are prepared for what’s to come.
— Akeem Haynes

 

 

 

-      Akeem

Always Bet On Yourself

I think a lot of people believe in themselves, but very few people are willing to risk everything, and put everything on themselves.
— Akeem Haynes
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It’s one thing to believe in yourself, but it’s another thing to bet on yourself. One is talk, and the other is the real deal. We’ve all heard that cliché statement “Put your money, where your mouth is.” In other terms, if you’re really about it, then be about it.

 

 

I think a lot of people believe in themselves, but very few people are willing to risk everything, put everything on themselves. 

 


Here’s the difference:

When you bet on you, you truly invest in yourself. Your faith is fortified because you found a way to see the light in the darkness. You know what you’re capable of because of the work and effort you put into everything you do. You don’t sweat what people say, because you live your truth. You don’t worry who’s against you, because God is with you.

 

You don’t worry about what you can’t control, because you’ve controlled your preparation. You don’t worry about falling, because you’ve fell so much you’ve learned how to get back up.

 

There’s a difference, and that difference, is that no matter who is against you, no matter the odds, no matter the logic, no matter how hard it can be and will get, you are still willing to bet on yourself to overcome it and find a way to progress forward with a positive attitude.


If you are reading this today, Always be willing to bet on yourself, through the highs and more importantly the low’s because no matter what project you are working on, you will always be your greatest investment and lifelong project.

Bet on you.

 

 

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-Akeem

 

 

 

The Past 5 Months

On the other side of fear are many things.  But one of the biggest drivers that always stops me from being afraid is this thing called regret.
— Akeem Haynes

Wait, what month is it?

 

It’s crazy to see how quickly 2018 has come. But then again, not really.  Time really does fly. But we always have to take a moment to enjoy what’s in front of us and how we’ve overcome some of the things that are now behind us. 

 

I've been getting a lot of questions over the past few months, regarding my writing and inconsistent blog posts and also when the next book is coming out, and of course football.

Why the hiatus?

 

And the answer is… (Insert Deep Answer Below)

 

I just have a lot going on right now. Ha!

 

And also, I’ve been doing different things that require a lot of my focus.

 

I think there is a big difference between being productive and being busy. I am busy, but I am also productive.  We often justify putting off the things we don’t want to do but know we need to do by saying we are “too busy.”  Oftentimes, being “too busy” is just an excuse.

 

(Who is this guy trying to tell me stuff, huh?)

 

More blog posts are coming, and so is the next book.

 

Question 2! (Or rather an opinion/comment I’ve been receiving)

 

“Why would you stop running track, when you’ve had so much success, to pursue football? You haven’t played in 8 years.  You won’t be very good.”

 

I guess the best way to answer this question is, “why not?” - For many, it was a surprise. To the people who really know me, it was just a matter of time.

 

Are the odds against me?

 

Of course.

 

Is it crazy?

 

Maybe.

 

Is it going to work out?

 

Maybe?

 

Is it going to be worth it?

 

Without a doubt.

 

Football has always been a dream of mine.  And I’ve always been a dream chaser.  I think most people don’t understand that certain opportunities aren’t always going to be there. I’m not getting any younger.  My body isn’t always going to be that of a 26-year-old. 

 

I can eat a pint of ice cream and my body will recover in 24hrs. (strawberry cheesecake in case you’re wondering)

 

I won’t be able to bounce back like that when I retire from sports. 

 

I am in the peak of my sports career. 

And here’s the other thing.

 

I don’t fear pursing football and failing at it. 

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I fear not pursing it and living with the regret, wondering how it would have played out. 

 

On the other side of fear are many things.  But one of the biggest drivers that always stops me from being afraid is this thing called regret.

 

I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life, things I should have handled better.  But I don’t regret them.  I’ve had great moments, even if they didn’t end well.

 

I’ve learned from everything and tried to become a better person because of it.

 

I’m going to go in and do my absolute best, control what I can, learn everything I can, and give it my all.  I cannot control everything, and I won’t try to.

 

Just a thought.

 

Get around some good, positive, like-minded people.

 

I’m not the first to say this, and I definitely won’t be the last.

 

I’ve learned years ago to go where you’re celebrated, not where you’re tolerated. I’m so focused on positivity and progression that I don’t go around people who would drag that down.

 

Life is hard enough as it is, and you don’t need to make it any harder with being around negative minds because you will eventually and most likely consume what you’re around.

 

Whatever your dream is, get around people who have done it before.  Get around people who actually know what they’re talking about it.

 

Use your resources.  With technology nowadays, you can find almost anybody’s work, and most importantly, their interviews. Get out there and tap into how other people think.

 

Your brain is one of the greatest gifts you have.

 

And the one thing about humans is that if you can see it and understand it, you can achieve and create your own version of it.

 

Get around some good people, keep learning, keep reading, and keep growing.