1) I WILL - Get up and show up
You’re going to have to pay your dues. Anything worth having is going to take time to get which means there are going to be times when your emotions get the best of you. Some days you’ll be more tired than others; some days you won’t feel as creative or as productive as other days. But no matter how you feel, pick yourself up and show up for that day. Whatever tasks you have to tackle, find the strength to make it happen. Get it done. Because one thing I’ve realized is that the days you don’t feel like doing something are the days when you probably need to do it the most, especially if it’s going to get you closer to your dreams, goals and aspirations. Do your best not to count the days; focus on making each day count.
2). I am IMPORTANT
Do you know you’re here for a reason? Every single person on this planet has a purpose, including you! Yes, YOU. You may not feel like it. You may not know what it is. But I need you to understand, and I mean REALLY understand, that you are important. You are here to accomplish something no one else in this world can accomplish. The very fact that you are alive right now reading this means God is not finished with you yet. You matter. I don’t care what anyone else has told you, or even what you’ve told yourself. From this second moving forward, I need you to know you are special. SO special. There are gifts, talents, visions, ideas, goals, and dreams inside of you ready to unfold. Take the time to figure out what they are. Please! The world needs what you have to offer.
3). I MUST – Breathe
Sometimes we forget to breathe. You might say, “How do we forget to breathe when that’s literally what gives us oxygen?” What I mean is that we breathe for survival but not always to analyze our next move. Oftentimes, life can become a lot to handle. Oftentimes, life has a grip on us and we’re just trying to hold on, just trying to keep our heads above water and catch our breath. I’ve realized that in the midst of these chaotic moments, if we can find a way to breathe, we eventually calm down and can figure out a solution to our problems. It’s kind of like quicksand. The more you fight, the quicker you sink. But if you calm down, it takes the sand longer to overtake you. Don’t let life overtake you. Take a deep breath, analyze the root of your problem, shift your perspective, and find a solution.
4). I am LOVED
Another way to say this affirmation is, “I love myself.” Self-love is crucial. CRUCIAL. You cannot receive or give love to others until you first learn to love yourself. How do you fall in love with yourself? By working on the second affirmation- I am important. If you repeatedly remind yourself that God has a plan for your life; that you are here for a reason; that there is greatness inside of you; that you are amazing and special; that YOU ARE IMPORTANT, your self-love will slowly begin to grow and grow. You can tell when you REALLY love yourself because everything about you changes. Your swag is different. Your confidence is on a whole other level. You talk different. You walk different. You don’t care what other people think about you. You don’t need compliments from other people to feel good about yourself. You don’t need likes and comments under your Instagram posts to feel validated. You don’t settle for less than what you deserve. You eliminate the people and things in your life that are distracting you from your purpose. Because when you fall in love with yourself, you realize you deserve to live the BEST life you could possibly live. Mannnnnn, let me tell you. Do not take this affirmation lightly! Work on it until you start to see some changes. Self-love is not going to happen overnight, but it is SO worth the process.
5). I WILL - Fully commit to it
I’ve always been a forward thinker. I’m always thinking long term, which has its advantages and disadvantages. One advantage is that I can see my vision very clearly. The dream. The final product. I see it as clear as day. It’s so clear I can grab it! However, the disadvantage to this is that I often overlook certain steps.
I don’t believe starting is the hard part. I think having the right emotional state and the right people around you will give you the boost you need to start whatever it is you want to do. The hard part is finishing. It’s hard to finish anything. Not because we can’t, but because when we embark on a journey, life has a way of happening. The moment you make up your mind to do something, life is going to test you to see how bad you really want it. And it’s not always easy to fight when you have no fight left in you. It’s not always easy to get back up when you’ve had countless setbacks.
Doubt and fear are always near us. But you owe it to yourself to see how far you can go in this life, not for anybody else but yourself. You need to finish whatever it is that you’re doing. It’s not even about the destination. It’s about who you are as a person day in and day out. Your character will always overshadow whether you reach it to the top or not. I’ve climbed many mountains and fell short on a bunch of them. But no matter how many times I fall short, I’ll never stop climbing. I owe it to myself to finish whatever it is that I start. I dare you to finish. I dare you! See it all the way through, and watch what it does to your character along the way.
6). I am STRONG
“But Chanelle, I don’t feel strong.” I get it. Trust me. I get it! Life has a way of making us feel weak. Tragedy, disappointment, pain, suffering, trial, tribulation- we all experience difficult circumstances. And sometimes the burden feels too heavy to carry. Job loss, a death in the family, a bad health diagnosis, financial hardship, marital problems, a disobedient child- the list of challenges we experience is endless. But guess how I know you’re strong? Because you’re here right now reading this. When life knocked you down, you got back up. Being strong doesn’t mean you won’t ever fall. Being strong doesn’t mean you won’t ever feel like quitting. The true sign of strength is getting up when everything in you wants to throw in the towel. The next time life throws you a curveball and you don’t know how you’re going to make it through, remind yourself of all the things in your life you’ve overcome. You’ve gotten stronger and stronger because of everything you’ve been through. Your strength is at a higher level than it was a few years ago, a few months ago, a few weeks ago, even a few days ago. Stop believing the lies that you’re too weak to get through whatever you’re facing, that you can’t handle anymore hardship. You CAN and you WILL.
7). I MUST - Do better when I know better
I remember when I finished university at 22, and I had just written my first book. After I got the physical copy of the book and saw all the mistakes in it, I thought, “Wow, I had no idea what I was doing.” See, I didn’t get a professional editor. I was trying to save money so I went with someone I knew had been an English teacher for decades. Even though she did a good job editing my book, she didn’t have that professional eye for book editing, and that showed in my end product.
For my second book, I hired a professional editor, and the result was a night and day difference. All I did was make one small adjustment, and it made a huge impact. Am I a genius? Heck no. I just learned from my experience. I knew better, so I made a better choice. It’s okay to make mistakes. It’s okay to get it wrong. We’re human. That’s going to happen. Very few times do we ever get it right the first time. Don’t take it to heart. Progress with the knowledge you have. Make better decisions with the lessons you’ve learned. Once you know better, do better.
8). I am BEAUTIFUL
This affirmation is a little cheesy, but it’s one of my favorite, probably because it’s the one I struggle with most. I have a hard time looking myself in the mirror and saying, “I am beautiful.” Like most people, when I look in the mirror, I focus on my flaws. I focus on everything about myself I wish was different. But recently I got fed up with myself. “Chanelle, wishing you could change certain things about yourself is such a waste of time. You are beautiful just the way you are.” And I’m going to tell you the same thing: You are beautiful just the way you are! It’s hard for us to recognize our own beauty because we are constantly comparing how we look to how other people look. Nowadays, the comparison trap is so easy to fall into with social media. It’s SO important to remember that another person’s beauty is not the absence of your own beauty. And, this may sound a little cliché, but true beauty is found within. A woman can be the most beautiful person in the world on the outside, but if she has a nasty personality, she’s ugly in my book. Imagine a young boy coming up to you and asking, “Why am I so ugly.” What would you say? I imagine you would tell him he’s not ugly, that everyone is beautiful in their own special way, and that true beauty is determined by how you treat others. I think it’s time for all of us to start taking our own advice.
Maybe you have some affirmations of your own. I would love to hear about them and see what type of thoughts get you through each day. Feel free to leave a comment below and let me know!
Co-Written with Chanelle Price