“If you set out to be liked, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at any time, and you would achieve nothing."
~ Margaret Thatcher”
Last night I laid in my bed in the dark with my windows open. For twenty minutes, I just let my mind wonder and take me where it wanted too.
I started to think about a time when I was younger, my grandfather would always take me to go and fill a bucket with mangos after church. And during that time with him he would tell me stories of when he was a younger, he would tell me stories about how he met my grandmother, and how his dad use to take him to get mangos when he was my age. As a young kid your focus really isn’t on the stories but more on the mangoes because lets be serious, I was trying to get as many mangoes as I could I didn’t have all day. And as a bonus, he would let me eat as much as I wanted too that day as soon as we got home. I would eat mangoes until I started to feel sick.
However, I always listened even when he thought I wasn’t paying attention. Instantly I started to smile because those are the moments that will always stick with me. Good or bad, those times that bring us a moment of joy will always last a lifetime.
Often times we overlook the small joys of life that bring a smile to our faces and souls, we sometimes waste time on things that we really won’t remember a month from now, let alone a year from now. That’s what gave me the idea for this post.
Here are some things that helped me in my own exepreinces:
1). The desire for everything you don’t have. – No, you might not always get everything you want, but oftentimes if you take the time think about the things you do have, you will see that you have more than you need. We all have wants, but let’s not forget that there are lots of people in this world who don’t have what they need to survive everyday life, but you do. You might not have a lot right now, but nonetheless you should always be grateful for the things you do have.
2). Worrying about what everyone thinks and says about you. – Don’t take things too seriously. If you take the things people say about you too seriously you will be offended for the rest of your life. People are going to say what they want to say, and think what they want to think, at the end of the day, their words and opinions are just that, opinions. last time I checked opinions aren’t facts.
3). Everyone else’s definition of success and happiness. - You simply can’t base your idea of success and happiness on other people’s opinions and expectations. You have to decide what’s important for you, and what keeps the fire inside of you burning. No one can keep that flame alive but you.
4). Trying to impress everyone. – Truth is, no matter how you live somebody will be disappointed. That’s just the reality of what it is, one of the most liberating things we learn in life is that we don’t have to like everyone, everyone doesn’t have to like us, and that’s perfectly OK. Live YOUR life for you, and appreciate the ones who support your authenticity.
5). All the fears holding you back. – The only way to move past your fears is to face them. Whatever you don’t confront will find new ways to aggravate you over and over again. Oftentimes the best way to gain strength and self-confidence is to do what you’re afraid to do. Breakthroughs happen when you can find the courage to step outside of your comfort zone and step past your fears.
6). Holding on to Grudges – Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something. Forgiveness, however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on. Holding on to something you have no control over will continue to weigh you down
7). Thinking the perfect time will come. – If you always wait for the perfect timing you will miss out on the life you dream about. One day you should be able to look be and say “I really did live life” and not “I wish I would have done that”. Perfection is a myth, time doesn’t wait, neither should you.
8). Regrets – try and do everything you said you would do. Before anything can happen, you must decide that you’re going to try. What will happen will happen along the way, but don’t sit back and watch life happen in front of you and you not have a say in what happens next. Leave no stone unturned, try every possible course of action in order to achieve something. No Regrets.
9). Past mistakes – Without a time machine there is no way we can go back in the past. Until one is built, don’t let your past mistakes have you doubting your present and harm your future. We all make mistakes and we all have flaws, the only way to figure out life is to make choices and act on our decisions. They might not always work out, but that’s something we have to live with. At the end of the day life goes on, use your mistakes to help you grow and hopefully help you make better choices for the future. Even though we may make mistakes along the way, we don’t have to be confined by them. Live, learn, and keep it moving.
10). Distractions - Be wise enough to walk away from the nonsense around you. Focus on the positives, and soon the negatives will be harder to see. Always remember that what you pay attention too will grow. Be careful what you give your attention too.
Its On You..
Truth be told, time is something we can't get back. What you do with it is on you, but the fact that we cannot get it back should speak volume. What do you need to prioritize in order to progress? What are you giving more time to that you shouldn't?
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